Thrive Postpartum, Couples and Family Therapy - Recovering from Loss or Trauma

2500 West Higgins Road #570
Hoffman Estates, Illinois
60169
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We are a team of counselors who specialize in supporting families in the perinatal period. Our mission is to empower your healing and growth through exceptional counseling. We specialize in supporting individuals and families in the perinatal period, including those who have experienced trauma or loss.

Perinatal Grief & Loss

Counseling

Has miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant loss upended your life and transformed what was supposed to be a time of celebration into a period of fear and uncertainty? Have you been forced to terminate a pregnancy for medical reasons (TFMR), leaving you to process a complex mix of guilt, sadness, grief, and hope?

If you’ve suffered a devastating perinatal loss and are having trouble processing—or even understanding—your grief as you mourn a human being you never had a chance to know, we can support you. Grief is not a pathology or illness to be diagnosed—it’s a natural process that only the most fortunate of us never have to go through. Therefore, therapy isn’t about fixing or curing you—it’s about helping you work through the pain and getting your life back on track. And although there is no right or wrong way to grieve, using our person-centered approach to healing, you will be able to better understand, validate, and process the intense, complicated emotions you may be feeling.

One of the tools we use is EMDR Therapy, a powerful and rapid way of treating the most extreme symptoms of individual and family trauma. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is another effective model that enables you to make make subtle shifts in your thoughts and behaviors that alter the way grief and loss affect you. And art and play therapy are valuable tools for accessing children who may be non-verbal or reluctant to talk about their loss. Most importantly, we want to empower you to allow yourself the right to grieve, especially if you are feeling pressured to “get over it.”

Our counselors at Thrive Postpartum Couples & Family Therapy are specially trained to walk with you through your grief and bear your suffering no matter how great. Here, you can let it all hang out without worrying about being judged, dismissed, or prodded to move on. We can handle your pain and stand with you through this uncertain period—and in time, you can find peace in yourself and joy in life again.

Pregnancy & Parenting After Loss Support Group

Join us for a virtual support group for pregnancy and parenting after loss. We wish to provide a warm space for you to continue your healing journey within a supportive community that understands your loss and pain.

Birth Trauma Counseling

The birth of a child is meant to be a joyous and transformative experience, but for some parents, it can be a traumatic event that leaves emotional scars. If you have experienced a traumatic birth, whether due to medical complications, unexpected outcomes, or feelings of powerlessness, know that you are not alone. At Thrive Postpartum Couples & Family Therapy, we offer specialized counseling and support to help you heal from birth trauma and regain a sense of peace and empowerment.

Birth trauma refers to the psychological distress experienced by parents following a traumatic childbirth. It can result from a wide range of experiences, including:

  • Emergency medical interventions: When interventions such as emergency cesarean sections, forceps, or vacuum extractions are necessary, the intensity and suddenness of these procedures can lead to feelings of trauma.
  • Complications during labor and delivery: Complications such as prolonged labor, fetal distress, postpartum hemorrhage, or the baby requiring NICU care can contribute to the experience of birth trauma.
  • Loss of control and disempowerment: Feeling unheard, disrespected, or not being involved in decision-making during the birth process can leave parents with a sense of powerlessness and trauma.
  • Perceived threats to the well-being of the baby or the mother: Any situation where there is a perceived threat to the physical or emotional well-being of the baby or the mother can lead to birth trauma.
  • Unexpected outcomes: When the birth experience does not align with the parents’ expectations or idealized visions, it can result in feelings of disappointment, grief, and trauma.

Birth trauma can have a profound impact on parents’ mental and emotional well-being, as well as their relationships. Some common reactions to birth trauma include:

  • Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD): Parents may experience symptoms of PTSD, such as intrusive thoughts or memories of the traumatic birth, nightmares, hypervigilance, and anxiety.
  • Anxiety and depression: Birth trauma can contribute to heightened levels of anxiety and depression, making it challenging for parents to bond with their baby and adjust to parenthood.
  • Relationship strain: The trauma of birth can place strain on the relationship between parents, as they navigate their own healing processes and try to support each other.
  • Impact on future pregnancies and birth experiences: Birth trauma can influence parents’ feelings and decisions around future pregnancies and birth experiences, leading to fear, anxiety, or avoidance.

At Thrive Postpartum Couples & Family Therapy, we offer a compassionate and safe space for parents to process their birth trauma and work towards healing. Our approach includes:

  • Validation and support: We provide a validating and empathetic environment where your experiences and emotions are acknowledged and validated. We are here to listen and support you through your healing process.
  • Trauma-focused therapy: Our therapists are trained in trauma-focused approaches, such as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), which can help you reprocess and integrate traumatic memories in a safe and controlled manner.
  • Coping strategies and self-care: We help you develop coping strategies and self-care practices to manage anxiety, depression, and other symptoms associated with birth trauma. These may include relaxation techniques, mindfulness, and self-compassion exercises.
  • Nurturing relationships: We work with you and your partner to strengthen your relationship and navigate the impact of birth trauma together. Building understanding, communication skills, and support systems can contribute to your healing process.
  • Reclaiming empowerment: We support you in reclaiming your sense of empowerment and control over your birth experience. This may involve exploring choices, reframing narratives, and finding ways to honor your journey.

If you have experienced birth trauma, know that healing is possible, and you are not alone in your journey. At Thrive Postpartum Couples & Family Therapy, we are dedicated to providing a safe and supportive space for you to heal and regain a sense of well-being.

 

Our team

TRAINING & CERTIFICATIONS
SUMA KARANDIKAR, MA, LCPC, PMH-C

Suma (she/her/hers) proudly serves as the Owner of Thrive Postpartum, Couples and Family, previously the Postpartum Wellness Center that was founded in October 2013. She is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor with 20+ years of experience working with adults, couples and families and utilizes variety of therapeutic models including Cognitive Behavior Therapy, Emotion Focused Therapy, and Mindfulness Based Therapy.

  • Certified Gottman Therapist: Over a three-year program, Drs. John and Julie Gottman have personally trained Suma in what the industry largely recognizes as the highest quality couples therapy. Using the Gottman Method, Suma works to help her clients leverage action-oriented techniques that are based on cutting edge scientific research into what makes relationships work. Suma has also completed the advanced Gottman course: Treating Affairs and Trauma.
  • Certified Prepare and Enrich Premarital Counselor – Suma has undergone specialized training and certification in the field of premarital counseling through the Prepare and Enrich program. She possess expertise in utilizing the Prepare and Enrich assessment tools and interventions to guide couples in building strong foundations for their marriages.
  • Certified Perinatal Mental Heath Specialist : Suma has extensive post-graduate training in the assessment and treatment of Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders (PMADs). In additional to the Postpartum Support International training, Suma has gone on to complete Karen Kleiman’s landmark postgraduate clinical training in PMADs. Suma is a member of Postpartum Support International.
KATIE KMIECIK, MA, LCPC, PMH-C

Katie (she/her/hers)  co-founded Postpartum Wellness Center, LLC in 2013. She has provided case management and counseling services to perinatal women, couples, and families for almost 20 years.

Katie specializes in Perinatal Mental Health and Trauma and has post-graduate training in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and Perinatal Grief and Loss of Miscarriages, Stillborns and the Loss of an Infant. She has extensive experience supporting families with babies in the NICU.

  • Certified Perinatal Mental Health Specialist: Katie has extensive post-graduate training in the assessment and treatment of Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders (PMADs). Katie has completed Postpartum Support International’s basic and advanced training (and now teaches them) and completed Karen Kleiman’s landmark clinical training in PMADs as well as both of her Advanced Trainings. Katie was in the first group of women in the world to earn certification in PMADs.
  • Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Trauma Practitioner: Katie utilizes EMDR, the most effective and quickest acting trauma therapy, for people who have experienced traumas big and small including birth trauma, the loss of a pregnancy or baby, infertility trauma, and general life traumas.
  • Maternal Mental Health Advocate – Katie has completed the Saybrook University Maternal Mental Health Advocate certification.
  • Gottman Level 2 Trained Couples Therapist: Katie enjoys the dynamic of couples counseling and utilizes the Gottman Method of research-based assessments and interventions to improve all aspects of a relationship.
  • Postpartum Support International: Katie is an educator and presenter for Postpartum Support International’s Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders Training and their Advanced Psychotherapy Program in which she shares her expertise educating other therapists in the assessment and treatment of PMADs across the country. Katie is also a member of Postpartum Support International.
  • Professional Speaker and Trainer: Katie has been a professional speaker and trainer throughout her career. She has written, copyrighted, edited, and managed three different psycho-educational programs. She has presented to thousands of teens, parents, educators, and clinicians.
STACEY O’CONNELL, MA, LCPC, PMH-C

Prior to joining Thrive Postpartum, Couples and Family Therapy, Stacey (she/her/hers) served as clinician in a transitional living program for women and children who are survivors of domestic abuse. Stacey chose to be a therapist due to her passion for treating those struggling with grief and loss. Stacey was also a long-time clinician at community mental health agency serving clients who suffered from many types of mood disorders, anxiety, women’s issues, trauma, attachment wounds, social anxiety, and family conflict. Additionally, Stacey has experience with anger and stress management.

Using Cognitive and Dialect Behavioral Therapy techniques, Stacey works to help her clients develop coping skills, transform maladaptive behaviors, create new, healthy and strong thought patterns.

  • Certified Perinatal Mental Health Specialist: Stacey is Certified in the assessment and treatment of Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders (PMADs).
  • Certified Bereavement Care Provider – The Compassionate Bereavement Care Certification® is an intensive four day training program through The MISS Foundation. The Miss Foundation is an international nonprofit group which aids parents whose children died. Stacey has also completed the Miss Foundation’s advanced grief training, facilitated by Dr. Joann Cacciatore, who is among the top two percent of researchers worldwide in the area of Traumatic Grief. As a bereavement specialist Stacey focuses on strengthening her ability to attend to each of her clients at a deeper level. She wishes to witness their grief in a way that allows her to be most in-tune with the way her clients needs to process their grief. Stacey believes in the importance of offering a flexible approach to grief support by being competent with a variety of approaches, tools and environments. Stacey hopes to teach her clients to trust themselves in expressing their grief and their needs so that ultimately they learn to integrate their grief and be present in their daily lives.
  • Related, Stacey also has experience in working with grief and loss specific to miscarriage, stillbirth and infant loss and has completed The Perinatal Loss – A Framework for Healing certificate course.
  • Gottman Level 3 Trained – Stacey is trained in Gottman Method couples therapy. She enjoys relationship assessment, couples treatment planning, and using Gottman specific interventions to get couples back on track. Stacey has completed the following advanced Gottman Trainings:
    • Couples and addiction recovery
    • Treating affairs and trauma – Helping Couples Heal and Rebuild Trust
AISHA KHAN, MA, LCSW, PMH-C

Aisha (she/her/hers) brings nearly a decade of direct practice experience working with children, youth and families. Her vast skill set includes individual and group counseling, parenting skills education and case management.

Aisha uses an eclectic approach to therapy tailored to her individual clients which may include cognitive behavioral therapy, psychodynamic therapy, play therapy, and dialectical behavior therapy. She has assisted individuals with a broad spectrum of emotional and behavioral issues including mood and anxiety disorders, grief/loss, trauma, suicidality and self-harm, relationship concerns, anger management/impulse control, adolescent issues, coping skills, postpartum depression and parenting issues.

In addition to her past work at child welfare agencies, domestic violence shelters and in a variety of school settings, Aisha also facilitated a series of groups and educational workshops for adults and youth.

  • Certified Perinatal Mental Heath Specialist: Aisha has extensive post-graduate training in the assessment and treatment of Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders (PMADs). Related, Aisha also has experience in grief and loss work specific to miscarriage, stillbirth and infant loss and has completed The Perinatal Loss – A Framework for Healing certificate course.
  • Gottman Level II Trained – Aisha is well versed in Couples Therapy. She enjoys relationship assessment, couples treatment planning, and using Gottman specific interventions to get couples back on track.
  • Advanced Grief Counseling Specialist Aisha has completed coursework and trainings over the last several years, including a 3 Day Advanced Grief Certification training course which is required to get her Certified Advanced Grief Counseling Specialist (CAGCS) Certification.  She explores with her clients all types of grief and loss, not limited to death, and helps them navigate, process and cope in a nonjudgmental, safe environment.
  • Workshop and Group Facilitator Aisha has led several groups educational workshops for adults and youth on topics including eating disorders, bullying, self-injury, self-esteem, parenting, socialization and domestic violence.
VANESSA DEMITO, MA, LCPC, PsyD CANDIDATE

Vanessa (she/her/hers) comes to Thrive Postpartum, Couples and Family Therapy with a passion for helping her clients navigate life’s difficulties by providing the tools necessary for growth. Vanessa wants to help her clients become the best versions of themselves.

She has in-depth knowledge in crisis counseling due to her experience working in the adult and adolescent emergency room as well as working on the adult behavioral health inpatient unit.

Vanessa has also completed the 3-day advanced training in the assessment and treatment of Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders (PMADs) through Postpartum Support International. Vanessa will be taking the (PMAD) certification exam in the near future. Vanessa is a member of Postpartum Support International.

Vanessa is well versed in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and uses these techniques throughout her client progress.

Vanessa graduated from Judson University with her masters in Mental Health Counseling. She also has her nursing assistant certification.

RACHEL PERILLO, MA, LPC

Rachel (she/her/hers) enjoys working with adults, parents, and couples to help them improve their relationships with themselves and others with self-compassion. She is passionate about collaborating with clients on building coping skills and self-care strategies, tailored to their specific needs, to better navigate life’s struggles and seasons of change. She is well versed in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and is also drawn to the principle of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Rachel provides a warm, nurturing, compassionate, person-centered approach, while gently challenging clients in positive and encouraging ways.

Rachel is a graduate of The Chicago School of Professional Psychology in 2009, with a Masters of Arts in Forensic Psychology. She obtained her Bachelors of Arts in Criminal Justice and Psychology in 2005. Rachel has been involved in the mental health field for over 10 years, and has previous experience working with adults and the forensic population in community mental health, PHP, and inpatient psychiatric hospitals. During various seasons in her career, she has also taken some time off professionally, to care for her young family.

Rachel joined Thrive Postpartum, Couples and Family Therapy, with a keen understanding of how life can evolve and change in challenging, yet positive ways in a partnership, marriage, as well as in raising a growing family.

  • Gottman Level I & II Trained – Rachel is trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy. She will employ Gottman-specific interventions to help couples establish new and meaningful bonds.
  • Perinatal Mental Health – Rachel has also completed the 2- day training in the Assessment and Treatment of Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders (PMADs) and an Advanced
  • Psychotherapy Training Course through Postpartum Support International. Rachel is working toward her perinatal mental health specialist certification (PMH-C).

Rachel is a member of Postpartum Support International.

ASHLEY TABATA, MA, LSW

Ashley (she/her/hers) graduated with her Master’s in Social Work from Aurora University. Ashley specializes in Perinatal Mental Health, Perinatal Loss, Transitions into Parenthood, Couples Counseling, EMDR and Trauma Recovery, Grief, Bereavement, and Surviving Life After Loss.

After experiencing a second-trimester loss, Ashley aligned with educating and advocating for this life experience. As a yoga and wellness practitioner, she facilitates book clubs, women’s circles, group yoga classes, and special events supporting Perinatal Loss Awareness.

She hopes to help families navigate the complexities of life and learn authentic ways to parent their living and non-living children.

Ashley has completed:

  • Postpartum Support International’s two-day intensive on Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders and is working towards becoming a Certified Perinatal Mental Health Specialist.
  • Resolve Through Sharing (RTS) – Perinatal Death Certification. Ashley has completed the two-day intensive perinatal death certification.
  • Resolve Through Sharing (RTS) – Coordinator. Ashley has completed the intensive coordinator training and is now an RTS Coordinator.
  • The Perinatal Loss – A Framework for Healing Certificate Course. Ashley has completed this training to support the individuals experiencing perinatal loss fully.
  • Eye-Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) – Ashley has completed her clinical foundation training in EMDR, specializing in Perinatal Mental Health through Touchstone Institute and Institute for Creative Mindfulness. EMDR is a type of therapy that allows clients to process traumatic events throughout their lives.
  • SHARE’s Support Groups in Perinatal Bereavement Care course from the Sustaining Awareness and Access to Perinatal Bereavement Care series.
  • Gottman Level I & II Trained – Ashley is trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy. She will utilize Gottman-specific interventions to help support couples as they create new meaningful connections.

Ashley serves on the Postpartum Support International-IL Chapter, Board of Directors leading the Advocacy and Social Justice Committee. PSI is a leading organization researching and advocating for mental health and therapeutic interventions for all birthing people.

Certified Yoga Facilitator – As a yoga/wellness group facilitator, Ashley creates trustworthy spaces for her students to explore their experiences through mindful movement.

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